Raising a minority personality

am not sure whether above should be the right topic to discuss. and i was thinking whether or not i should raise this topic, but why not? sharing is caring, and plus, parenthood is not a close ended questions. 

Well, this topic is very closed to my heart. Living in a sibling of 7, I was not aware how it feels to be the only child in the family. I always think that as the only child, you are showered with more love and you get what you want. 

Oh well, most of the time, I admit yes!!

So now having one child, I become more sensitive to his surrounding. I pity him as not only he is the only child, he is also the first grandchild from my side (next grandchild is 4 years apart), and the youngest grandchild from my husband's side. and we live in a condo. what im trying to say here is, most of the time, he is all alone.. Or should i say, he is ok to be alone. 

One thing i took for granted when he was still a toddler was arranging for a playdate. I did but not often. One of the reason because, i got married quite (very) early and having a child at the age of 24. so I didnt have peers where i could arrange the playdate easily. Most of the time I will opt for bloggers friends. 

while that should be one of the factor of his personality development, i realised that he is more introverts as opposed to his parents - we are quite extroverts :D  tho we sent him to kindergarten when he was 1.5 years old.

Often we always received comments from the teachers that he is quiet but alhamdulillah during class session he will ask questions confidently. However, in terms of making friends, he has a big problem. First, he was not the person who will break the ice, second he doesnt mind to be all alone!! 

and this make me feel sad sometimes.. 

Since he doesnt really have good friends, he always the last choice to be in a group. Or sometimes, he was already in a group but suddenly someone asked him to leave the group. and he just said, ok fine.. I encountered this few times and seriously as a mother, it broke my heart.. 

ok, actually i have written in details what has happened to Emir during his primary school days, but I decided to delete it. Once uploaded, it will remains here in this blog forever. 

What im trying to say here is, parents have to play a big role if your child has a different personality from others. Emir is OK because he is a good friend of mine where he can share everything with me or sometimes with his father. Yes, since he is the only child, all attention goes to him so he is more comfortable to spend time with us. 

and one tips, please explore your child strength. Alhamduillah we found that Emir is good in chess and that is the reason despite all challenges that he faced he is OK. He has more chess friends rather than school friends and look forward to go to chess classes or tournaments rather than to go to school. Perhaps, chess friends mostly has similar personality like him..

I once asked him

"emir tak sedih ke orang buat macam ni dekat emir"

"its ok, i already good in chess, thats enough, we cant have all"

Dang!! aku pun terkene.. to that, Alhamdulillah

My slipped disc journey

First entry that happened in 2019. 

Wow, i really blogged now :) once i start i cant stop. so it goes this way, if I blog, i rarely update my social media. Enough for just one platform to record my journey. 

To summarize, I attended my cousin's wedding in Penang during Chinese New Year, went for work during the CNY week, already complaint on my backpain to my officemate but i thought it was sleep deprivation. Husband was away during the CNY week.

Comes Saturday, I continued my usual routine. Fetch my cleaner, and we went to pasar tani..

Here.... where it all started. 

Came home, went to toilet, resting on my bed and ta-daaaaaaa... I was in pain. Couldn't walk and couldn't move. I asked my cleaner to massage on my back, but it did not ease the pain. Since that day was Emir second last day to be at home before he is back to school, so i forced myself to cook his favorite food - sup daging.. Thank god, my cleaner (Wiwin) was around, so i asked her to prepare the basics. Masak tu oii, separuh badan kot, macam terbongkok-bongkok gitu.. But i still cooked for my son :) Ibu kan.. 

Since i couldn't move, I asked Wiwin to take Grab home. Kesian dia, dia tak suke, tapi terpaksa.. Tinggal-lah ibu dan anak. Emir was a bit worried and helped me immediately when i asked him. Such a loving boy. I texted my husband just to inform him that I couldn't walk. So he thought it was the same problem that i had last year - couldn't walk but tak berapa sakit. He texted Emir and asked Emir to massage my feet and called his sister to accompany me at home. But i asked my SIL not to come (because she was all the way from Puchong and it was already at night) + husband will drive back to KL that night. 

Pendek kata, malam tu tahan sakit.. 

emir berehat lepas tolong mak dia

On Sunday morning (11 Feb 2019), boleh pulak la laki aku cakap "kita balik siap lepas ni nak bawak Emir tengok wayang", guess my reaction -- helooooo aku ni nak bangun tak boleh, nak bawak pulak si emir tengok wayang.. WOW!! marah betul i masa tu terus lah nangis hahahaha..

So, husband came back home and was SHOCKED that i was really really really in pain hahahahaha.. tahu pun!! terkejut dia i jalan setapak setapak. u know it took me like nearly 30 minutes just to get up from bed because i need to find the best position to get up.. sakit sangat ok.. 

But i told my husband to settle Emir's stuff first. cari barang dia and what not and I was really really really really sad for not able to send Emir's back to his school. Sedih sangat.. 

Tinggal-lah i sorang dekat rumah, I opted not to call my father.. -- nanti dia panik.. petang husband balik rumah. But he was too tired, and he slept.. isteri yang solehah ok je, lagipun bukan boleh  jumpe specialist pun.. 

Monday- went to see GP asking for the Referral letter. Nak dapat surat GP tu mak aii... lama sungguh, kebetulan ramai betul orang dalam klinik tu.. i already set my mind to go to Pusrawi, jadi kebetulan Specialist tu ada sampai 12 pm saje..  so tak sempattt! 

and another day to handle the pain.. 

Tuesday, early in the morning, went straight to see the Dr. Dr. examined and when he lift my feet, i sakit. kiri sakit, kanan pun sakit, and he said "confirmed slipped disc".

and he introduced me with the new term "We need to do Radio Frequency".. err what? "RF, no surgery, you dont worry"

While waiting for the GL to be cleared, perut mestilah kene isi jugak.. tak de mood betul nak makan ok.. tengok lah muka i.. bengang sebab husband suruh pose pulak time time orang sakit ni.. grrrr

As expected, to get clearance from insurance was not easy. I waited around 4 hours on the wheelchair, while waiting i already informed the whole family on my situation, and terus adik i datang visit..

meanwhile, dapat je balik, laki i terus setup macam dekat rumah... sabarrrr je lah..

Meanwhile, this is yours truly yang memang menahan diri sakit. Bangun tak boleh, duduk tak boleh, berdiri tak boleh, tido pun tak boleh, pendek kata tak selesa langsung.. On that day itself i dah kene buat MRI and full body x-ray. MRI was just fine.. ye lah baring je.. but not the X-ray. Suruh meniarap lah, baring lah, ke kiri lah ke kanan lah, angkat lutut lah, serious i rasa nak tembak je staff tu hahaha.. sakit ok , but whatever it is, i managed to give a good pose :p

This picture was taken the next day, still in pain, but hell ya.. picture first cos i find out the uniform is quite fashionable - ala-ala Burberry gitu.. Anyway, my doctor is Dr. Sallehuddin Abdullah (Consultant Orthopaedic and Spine Surgeon). Sangat dedicated. Pukul 6.30 pagi dah datang ward checked on me.

and this is why i love my Company (my new department :D)

My problem is at L5- not good in explaining but the treatment is - "rawatan lumbar spine dan lutut".. still kene cucuk full bius. I remembered, i was pushed to OT room, one doctor gave me the injection, and immediately one of the  assistant asked me to change bed, and tadaaa tak ingat apa dah lepas tu.. 

Ni pun officemate yang ambik.. masa ni tak ingat apa dah

I cuma tersedar 3-4 hours after and tadaaaa, my happy pills is here!! My husband called the school and asked permission from the school to bring my happy pills home!! Masa i ni baru tersedar, so sangat lah mamai-mamai..

Not a good picture, but so happy to see the two of them besides me!

Alhamdulillah petang tu juga, i boleh bangun, boleh jalan.. Memang miracle.. my father and my siblings visited me on the same day. lupa ambik gambar.. ye lah mamai lagi kan.. :) 

Alhamdulillah..

So, the next day i received few visitors..

My best-est friend

My officemates - my bosses sebenarnya

Crazy chess parents

My pakcik makcik

My SIL - masa ni tengah fisio.. so gaya pun macam ginilah

My exofficemate

My officemate again.. 

My best friend

My SIL

My blogging friend - pun tak blogging dah 

Alhamdulillah boleh discharged on Friday, two days after the surgery..

token of appreciation to all nurses.. Saya suka Pusrawi sebab sangat mesra pelanggan.. Senyum je.. and saya suka sebab sentiasa dengar orang bagi salam. Setiap kali masuk waktu ada orang azan. ye lah kite sakit, mestilah nak dengar agama kan..

emmm, makanan hospital miss ke tak eh.. ? Ok lah.. but i prefer my cooking lagi walaupun tak sedap hehe

Thank you Dr. Sallehuddin..

HEALTH IS WEALTH :)

Alhamdulillah...

and the bill... 

Thanks Company-ku :D

Last memory of Standard 6

and hello Emir, you should thank me as my blogging mode is on. Ibu just realized that i only uploaded 4 entries for the entire 2018 - perhaps the worst performance as the blogger. :p

Having said that, im trying to save your childhood journey here and for you to understand, ibu and papa always support and you can always rely on us anytime and anywhere.

Standard 6 comes too soon and it ended too fast. I myself couldnt breathe and keep up with the activities that was planned by your school and your dad. I was working my ass off to ensure that I would get a better bonus for 2018 :D so we could go umrah in 2019 insyaAllah..

End of November, your school has organized too many event for Standard 6. It was one after another - which is a good thing! :)

Well, the fun part of being the standard 6 started when you and your friends finished the UPSR and the party started immediately after.. Zaman ibu dulu, tak macam ni pun, ni mak ayah yang prepare ..

I remember your last paper was on Thursday and Papa booked the flight to Chiang mai on Saturday. I disagree at the beginning, ye lah takut ada macam-macam perkara, but Alhamdulillah tak de apa -- another blogging post that i must published (our trip to Chiang Mai)

Errr, after Chiang Mai, most of the time, you skipped school with our permission and you only attended to seat for the final exam at your school.

Comes to the end of  November, satu-satu event yang berlaku.

(1) Hari Penyampaian Anugerah Cemerlang

Because it was not happening every year (no-no we still proud of you :D) so we always look forward to attend Hari Anugerah Cemerlang and this year you managed to achieve no 2 in class. During this time, the school will announce the recipients of Tokoh-tokoh Pelajar and yeah, sadly you did not manage to grab any despite your achievement in academic and as MSSM Gold Medalist. Yes, we didnt target you to grab Tokoh Pelajar, tak target apa-apa pun as we know you may lack of some leadership quality (yes, you manja). But at least the recipients should have good credential to be awarded. Ibu has attended few Anugerah Cemerlang previously and Ibu was totally impressed with the recipients CVs but honestly not your year :). Ibu and Papa exchanged our looks and we were like (eh tu je).. Well, perhaps the school management must have a reason for this la kan :) No worries, you did not feel sad at all, but your friend did. and honestly, he deserved the title..

Ok, enough of drama .. lets celebrate..

Antara cikgu-cikgu yang sentiasa belakang Emir..

Cikgu Diana - guru kelas Darjah satu

Cikgu Shidah - guru kelas Darjah dua

Cikgu Azira - guru kelas darjah 6

Emir ni memang minta ambik gambar dengan Cikgu yang sama je :)

2) Majlis Apresasi Tahun Enam

aka graduation ceremony for standard 6. Semua sekolah sekarang ni budak darjah 6 siap ada convo, siap ada baju jubah. memang over.. but its good to celebrate achievement kan.. Bila orang happy, semua akan happy jugak. Baju jubah pun cantik tu.. Just enjoy the picture lah nothing much .. sama saja, tak ada extra vaganza..

My office mate make a joke on the above picture. Katanya over, anak baru darjah 6 gambar macam dah graduate.. Oh well.. their time will come.. After all it is for memory and was provided by the school, guna je lah. A happy picture should be captured. So once again, their time will come. lets see what will happen.. pandai cakap sangat kan :)

3) Malam Seribu Kenangan

The most challenges time for the parents :D. It was dinner night for Standard 6. The students have to perform during the dinner and im telling you, depa practise macam nak buat show dekat overseas. I said challenges sebab bertapa banyak betul mak bapak kena sabar masa latihan ni berlangsung.. Maybe i dont understamd, but seriously until today i dont understand, the audience was only the standard 6 students and only the standard 6 teachers, tapi practise 3-4 hours per day for 2 months..

I remember, during the night itself, all parents were eager waiting someone to upload the performance via whatsapp.. kiterang nak tengok ape bendelah yang sampai 3-4 jam kene practise. The teachers were not involved in the performance training, mak bapak yang mintak trainer ajarkan (siap ada trainer you .....)

But whatever it is, all kids were very happy during the day itself.. I rasa anak i pun nampak handsome betul malam tu. Suit Emir kami buat di Chiang Mai..

with another mom. we waited for our son to finish from 7-12am hehe, setia menunggu dekat hotel tu.. nak balik nak patah balik malas.. so tunggu je lah dekat lobby hotel, masa ni jugaklah nak update pasal hal-hal sekolah..

and Emir with his classmate..

THE END